stoic???

A case of misinterpretation, or just total lack of self awareness - such was the challenging 'case' I had in front of me today. What was one person's perception of an event, so greatly differed from the other's.

Does everybody see themselves in such a skewed perception, or just a random few who seem to have a total skewed view of all things in their lives?

Whether it's an exaggerated self-criticism, or over inflated ego, there are so many ways in which we can see ourselves, but who is right? The perceiver, or the perceived?

This dilema highlights what I believe is at the bottom of many issues in life - is it more important to focus on trying to control/influence what others think of us, or pay more attention to changing what we think of ourselves?